Blog Challenge

Life's full of tough decisions. Even when we were younger, we had to make decisions of some kind...of course they seem to get tougher as we get older. What is a tough decision that you have made in your life? Did you make it all on your own or did you have help? Did you realize the consequences of your decision were beneficial and the right one to make or just the opposite. Please share and elaborate as much or as little as you want.


I think the toughest decision I (we) have made, was to only have one child. Never, growing up did I think I would only have one child. Of course I never thought I would be 36 when I got married either. We were both older, and weren't sure what would happen with having children. We both said we wanted one. I'm not sure either of us really believed that.
My husband and I knew going in that we would be lucky if we got pregnant quickly and have a healthy pregnancy at my age. It took 5 months to get pregnant. I had a text book pregnancy, or so I thought. When I delivered, I found out that I had a bad umbilical cord, and a bad placenta. Placenta Membrancia or something like that. Anyway, my placenta was very thin. The said right after my son was born, that most of 'these babies are born dead.' Nice, huh. She declared at that point that I shouldn't have any more babies.

So, 3 1/2 years later, we have had numerous conversations about whether our decision to have only one child will be good or bad for W. My husband worries that he will resent not having siblings someday. He might. We won't know for a while.

It wasn't an easy decision, but health-wise, age-wise, financially, space, it all made sense to only have one child. Was it the right decision? We may never know. Do I regret it? Sometimes, but other times I am very happy only having one, and I'm not sure how I would have handled having any more.